Comments on: I Am That Nerdy Kid – The Misguided Gift http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-philanthropist/i-am-that-nerdy-kid-the-misguided-gift/ Mon, 06 Sep 2010 14:34:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Hildy Gottlieb http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-philanthropist/i-am-that-nerdy-kid-the-misguided-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-110 Hildy Gottlieb Fri, 18 Dec 2009 00:30:09 +0000 http://ruthannharnisch.com/?p=343#comment-110 RuthAnn: Having appreciated your wisdom in our various conversations and exchanges, it is beyond me that a group would not appreciate that that's where the good stuff is! When I teach FriendRaising as true Community Engagement, I say the following: "When we ask for true friendship, we get advice and wisdom, advocacy, volunteers, speaking gigs, a ton of other great stuff, and oh-by-the-way, we also get money. When all we ask for is money, we leave all the rest of that good stuff on the table!" Your good stuff is so good. I am sad that "Julia" doesn't see that. (Sigh). Hildy RuthAnn: Having appreciated your wisdom in our various conversations and exchanges, it is beyond me that a group would not appreciate that that’s where the good stuff is!

When I teach FriendRaising as true Community Engagement, I say the following: “When we ask for true friendship, we get advice and wisdom, advocacy, volunteers, speaking gigs, a ton of other great stuff, and oh-by-the-way, we also get money. When all we ask for is money, we leave all the rest of that good stuff on the table!”

Your good stuff is so good. I am sad that “Julia” doesn’t see that. (Sigh).
Hildy

]]> By: Ruth Ann Harnisch http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-philanthropist/i-am-that-nerdy-kid-the-misguided-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-108 Ruth Ann Harnisch Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:15:47 +0000 http://ruthannharnisch.com/?p=343#comment-108 Dear Cyn, and everyone else who has either asked privately or made a guess: I didn't identify the nonprofit because The Harnisch Foundation will continue to be associated with several of their projects, and we continue to be proud of investing in their wonderful work. In no way do I think the individuals involved acted with malice or deliberate unkindness, or, rest assured, I would bust them in a heartbeat. I take full responsibility for the breakdown in communication. We didn't define "partner" in the same way, and the next time I use that word in a grant agreement, the grantee and I will have a better mutual understanding. Perhaps I'm spoiled by working with people like Tom Rielly at TED, who makes even the most modest of donors feel as if they are the most important people in his world. Dear Cyn, and everyone else who has either asked privately or made a guess:
I didn’t identify the nonprofit because The Harnisch Foundation will continue to be associated with several of their projects, and we continue to be proud of investing in their wonderful work.
In no way do I think the individuals involved acted with malice or deliberate unkindness, or, rest assured, I would bust them in a heartbeat.
I take full responsibility for the breakdown in communication. We didn’t define “partner” in the same way, and the next time I use that word in a grant agreement, the grantee and I will have a better mutual understanding.
Perhaps I’m spoiled by working with people like Tom Rielly at TED, who makes even the most modest of donors feel as if they are the most important people in his world.

]]> By: Cyn Liggett http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-philanthropist/i-am-that-nerdy-kid-the-misguided-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-107 Cyn Liggett Sun, 13 Dec 2009 16:22:33 +0000 http://ruthannharnisch.com/?p=343#comment-107 Of course my curiosity wants to know who the "Don't I think I'm the prettiest one here" non profit is that sloughed off dancing with you like it was nothing so I can spread the word while avoiding them like the plague. That said, I've spent over 9 years of my 32 year career involved in non profits. This sort of posturing says a lot more about the person and their board than perhaps the mission or the people they serve and are ripping off, in my humble opinion. That said, tis far better to get the message of rejection at the get go - because in all truth who wants to dance with someone who can't even hear the music or the beat. Of course my curiosity wants to know who the “Don’t I think I’m the prettiest one here” non profit is that sloughed off dancing with you like it was nothing so I can spread the word while avoiding them like the plague. That said, I’ve spent over 9 years of my 32 year career involved in non profits. This sort of posturing says a lot more about the person and their board than perhaps the mission or the people they serve and are ripping off, in my humble opinion. That said, tis far better to get the message of rejection at the get go – because in all truth who wants to dance with someone who can’t even hear the music or the beat.

]]> By: Cyn Liggett http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-philanthropist/i-am-that-nerdy-kid-the-misguided-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Cyn Liggett Sun, 13 Dec 2009 13:55:00 +0000 http://ruthannharnisch.com/?p=343#comment-137 I left you a comment on your blog wall - this really has me pondering - thanks for the share on this one RA. I left you a comment on your blog wall – this really has me pondering – thanks for the share on this one RA.

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