Comments on: And This Is Why She Gets The Big Bucks http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-coach/and-this-is-why-she-gets-the-big-bucks/ Wed, 28 Jul 2010 22:46:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Rosemary http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-coach/and-this-is-why-she-gets-the-big-bucks/comment-page-1/#comment-217 Rosemary Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:44:10 +0000 http://ruthannharnisch.com/?p=530#comment-217 Very cool questions and perspectives. You've always changed my perspective, in an instant. Very cool questions and perspectives. You’ve always changed my perspective, in an instant.

]]> By: Ruth Ann Harnisch http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-coach/and-this-is-why-she-gets-the-big-bucks/comment-page-1/#comment-214 Ruth Ann Harnisch Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:38:30 +0000 http://ruthannharnisch.com/?p=530#comment-214 This was specific to a situation, where the coach asked if instead of looking at it from the perspecitve of X role, if instead I could take on the role of X . It was a dramatic shift in perspective. I would suggest that you visit http://coachingcommons.org and search for the article and comments on "Great Coaching Questions." Even though it's an old article, people still keep making comments and adding their own great questions. The other day, someone added a question I'll paraphrase: "What are the tears saying?" It might have been "What do the tears want to say?" Anyway, later that day, someone wept unexpectedly in my presence, and all I could think of to say in that moment was, "What are the tears saying?" And I was very surprised by the answer - it was a complete game-changer. Not what I thought the tears were saying AT ALL. And I never would have thought to ask that question, ever. My mind doesn't work like that. So it was good to have that other person's suggestion stashed away! This was specific to a situation, where the coach asked if instead of looking at it from the perspecitve of X role, if instead I could take on the role of X . It was a dramatic shift in perspective.

I would suggest that you visit http://coachingcommons.org and search for the article and comments on “Great Coaching Questions.”

Even though it’s an old article, people still keep making comments and adding their own great questions. The other day, someone added a question I’ll paraphrase: “What are the tears saying?” It might have been “What do the tears want to say?”

Anyway, later that day, someone wept unexpectedly in my presence, and all I could think of to say in that moment was, “What are the tears saying?” And I was very surprised by the answer – it was a complete game-changer. Not what I thought the tears were saying AT ALL.

And I never would have thought to ask that question, ever. My mind doesn’t work like that.
So it was good to have that other person’s suggestion stashed away!

]]> By: Christine Heinrichs http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-coach/and-this-is-why-she-gets-the-big-bucks/comment-page-1/#comment-213 Christine Heinrichs Thu, 04 Feb 2010 21:07:00 +0000 http://ruthannharnisch.com/?p=530#comment-213 I'll say. I've got a version of some unexpected events from my week written up, will send separately. I'll say. I've got a version of some unexpected events from my week written up, will send separately.

]]> By: Rosemary http://ruthannharnisch.com/the-coach/and-this-is-why-she-gets-the-big-bucks/comment-page-1/#comment-211 Rosemary Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:35:44 +0000 http://ruthannharnisch.com/?p=530#comment-211 Can you share some "generic" questions a coach would ask in a situation like this? The kinds of ?s that led to your new reframe or insights. Can you share some “generic” questions a coach would ask in a situation like this? The kinds of ?s that led to your new reframe or insights.

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